If you are interested in getting involved in swinging, then it is worth getting a few things nailed down and a few questions out of the way before you proceed. If you feel you are ready to take your first step into the arena, then hopefully you will have already learned a bit about the swinging life. If you have not, then please stop a moment and read the following – it could save you some disappointment and potentially a lot of embarrassment.

Firstly, whatever forum you are working in – whether it is from a site, at a club or even a party – you should go slowly the first time. The idea of sex on a plate is what attracts a lot of people – especially guys – to become swingers, but although there is obviously scope to have sex it is still by no means guaranteed. Strolling in and proclaiming your intention to have a lot of sex will not go unnoticed. It will make people think you are a moron. Just behave naturally. Putting up a front will just lead to problems later.

Most forums for swingers have their own specific rules, and the most important thing is that you make sure you are aware of these in advance. Take into account that the people who have been there for a while have been sticking to those rules for months or even years. Seeing what they perceive to be some “Johnny Come Lately” stepping into the arena and immediately disregarding the rules will cause them to get quite hostile, quite quickly. Additionally if you stick to the rules you will gain an appreciation of what kind of behaviour is expected from you, and will be more likely to win you favor with a single or a couple.