It is worth taking into account where swinging is concerned that it used to often be referred to as “wife swapping”. Although this language has been changed in view of the fact that it did not allow for the idea that the practice may appeal to women every bit as much as to men, the fact remains that swinging is practised in the main by couples who wish to bring a bit of spice to their love lives.

In the world of swinging it is therefore worth being aware that there is sometimes, a little bit of distrust of single swingers. The life of a couple in an open relationship is very different from that of the single swinger, and there is a natural cynicism on the part of the married or co-habiting party that may lead them to see the single swinger as someone simply out to get what they can sexually. If a single wants to be viewed with the level of respect and trust that a member of a couple would be, then it is worth their observing a few rules.

For a start, and particularly for men, it is important not to be too pushy. In a lot of people’s view, you will be at best cautiously welcome at the party. To be cynical about it for a moment, people will wonder what exactly you have to offer in the way of polyamorous fun. Here you are, and it is only you. Whereas between couples, there is at least the benefit of each member of the group having something to offer that someone else wants.

Also, think about whether swinging is the way to get what you want. If you are signing up just so that you can get laid, do realise that the number of single guys massively outweighs the number of single girls – so if you are looking for no-strings fun you might be waiting a while.

Finally, please remember that the statistics go against you getting lucky every time. It may take many attempts, so do not become crabby and mean-spirited if it does not always happen, or does not happen first time – that will just make you more unpopular.